Well Spirit bear, sorry you were unable to find the help for your problem here, but there are some things you really should consider:
1. Do you understand what Love actually is?
2. Do you understand why folks here take issue with homosexuality, or what is wrong with it?
3. Do you understand that you are solely responsible for the choices you make? (No one can compromise your free will, they can make you think they can, but thinking something is so is very different from something actually being so.)
If we were to not attempt to correct you, we would not be Loving, we would be enablers of a problem that is very dire... Think of it like a patient with cancer wishing for people to accept their cancer as if it were themselves... Obviously the cancer is not who they are, even if they think it is, and obviously it can be "cured" or driven into enough remission that it may well not be lethal or even cause many problems later. However if people were to acquiesce to that position, the cancer would eat the person in question alive, as any treatment "attacking" it would be considered attacking the individual.
As far as sin goes, all sin is indeed sin, but apparently according to the bible texts, not all sins are equal in magnitude... all separate people from God, but some are more nasty about it than others (some are even communicable), to put it bluntly. I cannot speak for others, but for my part I understand homosexuality to like unto a cancer or AIDS in many ways, I see it as designed to completely ruin lives (for example, transgenderism, if followed through, will result in a mockery of God's image, mutilation of a person's body that is hard to recover from, diminishing their chances of ever finding their proper mate, and the realization that the promises of science were false, this also often results in shunning of the individual by the agenda-driving "community", and may well result in people making a final poor choice, that of self-murder.) guided in part by whispering spirits that are reasonably adequate at sounding like one's own thoughts. This is engineered specifically to mock God by blaspheming the original human relationship, while simultaneously attacking mankind (homosexuality can be communicable, IE a class in school teaching children that such is "okay", same as if teaching them to swim in a swamp full of malaria-ridden mosquitoes would benefit their health, when it will more likely result in them contracting malaria or something worse.), as well as the individual affected. It robs the individual of happiness, of the pursuit of a proper mate, it acts like AIDS in that individuals are encouraged to identify with it as if they themselves and it were inseparable, and in so doing makes any attempt to remove it appear as a personal attack (Thus "compromising the immune system" analogy), rather than a means of trying to help. This is why I treat it as a much more serious problem than say, gambling or a propensity to lie. Its the difference between the devil's version of a fragmentary hand grenade, and a suitcase nuke.
When I speak against homosexuality and similar perversions (homosexuality does not have a corner on that market of course.), I am actually trying to be helpful, I may not be very good at it, but I'm trying to help on something which seems like a non-issue to many, but is a big issue as I understand it, because I look at the variables, as Eve was made for Adam, and Adam for Eve, I tend to see all people having proper counterparts of the opposing gender, I see this particular combination resulting in the most happiness for people, of the things which shine brightly with God's Love, a True man and woman couple, that are meant for each other, and who have Love, is one of the more brilliant ones. You probably won't have heard of such ever happening with homosexual relationships... I know I haven't, and I have spoken to and been friends with many folks who were homosexual. (Never trust "scientific studies" by the way, its like trusting something written about the new york times, by the new york times. It likely won't show anything negative, or if it does it will be minor, to satisfy some people's request for "full disclosure", and disarm further questions.) Perversions such as homosexuality rob people of that, of happiness, of any sense of self-worth because regardless of a person's beliefs their moral compass will still be telling them what they're up to is wrong, get them chasing a gender that cannot ever be a proper mate for them (and thus blocking off all those of the opposite gender in the process.), because it is as impossible as breathing stone like air... Try soldering a headphone connector to another headphone connector, you'll find that neither will work for their proper function, and if you separate them it will be a bit of work cleaning the solder off of them to get them to fit into headphone ports... homosexual relations are like this, trying to form a bond between things which aren't ever meant to have a bond as such, they just plain were not designed that way.
Lastly, there does seem to be a grave problem in society being woefully misinformed about Love, I cannot speak for you, but for my part I did not originally know that Love has a spectrum, so to speak, All Love is Love, but one Love cannot always equate or become another Love, I'll Elaborate: We have a kind of Love for pets, but we do understand they are pets, we have another kind of Love for parents and family, but it is most certainly not appropriate for a husband & wife couple, we have a Love for friends, and Love for our Wife/Husband as well. Love of a friend can change into, or perhaps "cause to grow" Love between a Husband and Wife, who can also Love each other as Friends as well (and I recommend it, personally.) Love between siblings can never become Love between a Wife and Husband (The egyptians, and the royals after them have tried that, it tends to be disastrous, ala hemophilia etc. and likely other consequences not as frequently spoken of), but they can also have Love of each other as Friends.
In this we see that some kinds of Love give rise to others and can "stack" (if you'll pardon the RPG jargon here), that is to say they can mix/coexist with and enhance each other, while others are, by their nature not changeable to anything else. Love between a Husband and Wife cannot be had between two of the same gender, they can get Love of Friends and possibly even Love of Family/Sibling in rarer instances) but they won't be able to get the same kind of Love that is present between a Wife and Husband. It isn't God's fault, or anyone's fault, it is simply because this is how that system was designed, as far as I understand it, anyhow. Is it hateful to try to repair that which is bent or broken, is it hateful to try to heal illnesses or wounds, even if the patient in question insists the illness they have is part of them? Even now the homosexuality thing steals from you, prompting you to leave here because of folks trying to help, and protecting itself from harm in doing so, like a virus. You are Spirit Bear, you are not homosexual-spirit bear... because as much as it insists, the homosexuality thing is a corruption, it isn't truly You.
But G-root covered this subject better methinks, and in considerably fewer lines of text. haha